Perfectionism can be defined as high expectations for oneself and others and feeling anxious about trying to reach them. Success-oriented motivation is healthy and even necessary. However, always aiming for perfection or never making mistakes might lead to problems. While perfectionism can be perceived as a desirable attribute, it can also result in self-defeating thoughts and behaviours that make it challenging to accomplish goals. Recognizing the difference between "doing your best" and "being perfect" is essential.
Perfectionists frequently engage in all-or-nothing thinking, believing that what is done is worthless unless it is "perfect". They also frequently underestimate their efforts and accomplishments. Trying to be flawless causes them much stress since they often fail to reach their high standards and expectations. Over time, perfectionism can lead to high levels of anxiety, disappointment, inadequacy, constant comparison to others, self-criticism, and depression.
Signs of Perfectionism
Setting unrealistically high standards.
Harsh criticism towards oneself and their work. Focusing more on mistakes rather than achievements.
Procrastination is not being able to start a task until they are sure they can do it "perfectly".
Placing more emphasis on the outcome than the process.
Not considering a work completed unless the outcome is "perfect".
Anxiety over making errors or failing.
Taking an excessive amount of time to perform a task that would not usually take that long.
How to Cope with Perfectionism?
Coping with perfectionism first requires recognizing how it affects your life. An essential step in dealing with perfectionism is realizing how it hinders your happiness and prevents you from reaching your goals. Consider the adverse effects on your relationship with yourself, others, and your experiences.
Encourage change in yourself by understanding the advantages of letting go of perfection.
Recognize the underlying fears that drive perfectionism.
Have more compassion for yourself.
Try to imagine "good-enough" possibilities when you cannot meet the high standard.
Keep in mind that making errors is an opportunity to grow.
Try to quit looking for immediate outcomes and remember that success is a long process.
Pay more attention to your accomplishments and strengths rather than your flaws.
-Nazlı Hilal Korkut (Student Representative)
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