Sexual Difficulties in Men

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Nowadays, couples expect much more from sexuality. As our lifespan increases, our expectations from relationships increase to levels that were previously unimaginable. We only need to look at divorce rates to see how few of our expectations come true. If you're like most people, having sexual problems or wanting better sex and more intimacy, you'll be interested in what's described below. We have good news: Men with sexual problems have more options than ever before and are now more accepted. Part of the reason why this happens is because women openly acknowledge and confront their sexual problems (such as lack of arousal, dryness, inability to orgasm, lack of desire, and pain during sex). Similarly, today's men recognize the weight of the traditional male role. Women, too, refuse to endure the intimate and distressing sex their mothers had to endure for years. For these and similar reasons, couples today are open to new sexual information and consultation with therapists.

Frequently Encountered Problems

In the most limited sense, sexual problems encountered in men include problems in getting and maintaining an erection, premature ejaculation or delayed ejaculation. How hard, how fast, or how on time depends on the decision of the people involved, not on a clock or a standard. Consider the following when making your decision:
Most men experience erection problems, premature or late ejaculation problems at some point in their lives, and this is normal. If this occurs frequently or lasts a long time, one partner decides it is a "problem."
Disparate sexual desires and differences in sexual styles are normal and inevitable in long-term relationships. What matters is how you handle these differences.
The average man does not have a very high sexual desire. There are also men with low sexual desire. Just like women, men feel the pressure of their partners' sexual desires, which are higher than their own.
Sexual difficulties experienced by men can also reduce intimacy between partners.
If one partner has a frequent disorder or aversion, both partners eventually retreat into their own mental worlds of anxiety and frustration during sexual intercourse.
Focusing on what goes through your partner's mind during sex does not provide intimacy.

Sexual Differences Are Normal

There is no need to have a sexual disorder for this. Sexual boredom, lack of intimacy, reluctance and even passionlessness are common and inevitable developments; It may occur especially towards the middle of the relationship. Personal development processes often underlie common sexual problems. While this isn't very pleasant, it doesn't necessarily mean something is wrong. Knowing this may comfort you and allow you to evaluate your relationship in light of this new information. In fact, sexual differences can even be "useful": sexuality is not just about breaking our mutual inhibitions or learning new techniques. Many things can cause sexual performance problems or reluctance. It's not all about sexual incompatibility, aging or disease. It is not right to reduce current sexual problems to the past. Maybe the development of your relationship requires these. It is necessary to mature for the sexual intimacy, desire and passion that we all long for. Embarrassment is understandable, but it is not always necessary or helpful. Part of growing up and maturing is facing sexual issues like an adult. Men often assert their personal integrity when they realize that the real issue is not about sex but about their apologies. Still, sexual differences help partners see themselves and each other in a new light. This process can increase your capacity for intimacy and strengthen the bonds of love between you. Sexual "problems" are strange pleasantries. When things become unbearable and unbearable, some couples consult a therapist for good sex, more intimacy, and a better relationship like before the problems arose. Some people, who are shy at first, can later tell their relatives and friends what they have learned.

Treatment Options

In the past, men with sexual problems had fewer options. Treating erection problems with surgically implanted silicone rods, vacuum pumps and drugs injected into the penis left many things to do. Sex therapies of the past felt mechanical, unemotional, and technique-oriented to many couples. Today, erection problems, premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation and reluctance are treatable problems. Developments in intimacy-based sex and relationship therapies and more useful drugs such as Viagra are much better and more effective than the old solutions. Already, it can be seen that new medical miracles are on the way. However, it is wrong to expect that the sexual problems that remain in your relationship before they have woken up will be solved only with better functioning sexual organs. It may also be necessary to repair the relationship itself.

When to Get Help?

It is wrong to think that you are getting help too early. The general tendency is to keep this work as secret as possible. If things don't seem to be getting better, a marriage and family therapist, especially a sex therapist, can help you overcome sexual problems. It is also necessary to consult a doctor for a medical evaluation. Therapists can collaborate with doctors when medical treatment is needed. Sexual relations between parents are within the family. Parents' sexual relationships are and should remain private, but the impact they have on their families, whether good or bad, are not. Consider a man suffering from premature ejaculation or erection problems or lack of sexual desire. Ask yourself: Will he react more to the normal pressures from his teenage son, to a decrease in his income, or to his wife getting a new job? Children watch their parents' relationships very carefully. Lack of affection between mom and dad is as big a deal as catching them kissing. When there is a solid emotional and physical relationship between parents, the home becomes an environment where everyone wants to be. Children may complain about them being too friendly, but they actually live in an environment that will make them much happier for the rest of their lives.